Situationship Suckers

Too many games, and too many lies… 

They told you they loved you and didn’t show it one too many times.

Now a days a people are perfectly okay with situationships. They aren’t really together with the person they want to be with, but they aren’t really available for anyone else either. I personally never really understood the whole “a bond is better than a title” bullshit. A situationship is the only ship people are willing to be in nowadays because they are too afraid to commit. Too afraid to put their feelings on the line, and actually give a shit. A REALationship consists of a  consistent, and never ending willingness to do what it takes to make the ship stay afloat.

True love never dies, but willingness can and will if you let it. When two people care enough,and love each other enough they are WILLING to go the extra mile to fix any issues in their REALationship. Their will power is just too strong to succumb to any odds that may not be in their favor, in other words, they don’t give up. Love can be enough, if you have the strength to let it be. If you love someone enough you will never look in someone else’s direction because the thought of betraying your partners love and trust will eat you alive. If you love someone enough you will have the will power to resist any of the devils temptations. If you love someone enough you will never stop showing them just how much. You will have the will power to find new ways to make sure your lover knows they are loved and appreciated above all else. If you love someone enough you will do any and everything to keep the love alive. 

People are so quick to let challenges defeat them big or small. Those are people you need to RUN from. Do not I repeat DO NOT let a sucker capture your heart. They will suck your heart dry. They will have you living in situationship limbo as long as they can until you realize what is going on and decide enough is enough. Im here to give y’all some tips on how to spot and steer clear from situationship suckers:

Top 4 Situationship Suckers

The bond is better than a title sucker

These situationship suckers are everything you are looking for minus the one trait they try their darnedest to hide from you. They aren’t just about you! They want you to be just about them without them having to be just about you. They will tell you all the right things, and do all the right things to make you feel like their #1, but you sure aren’t their only one. They’ll tell you how special you are to them but not forget to remind you that you aren’t special enough to make them actually wanna be with you and do right by you. Just because they are confused about their feelings does’t mean you have to be. Don’t fall victim to their unstable ways, when stability is what you are looking for. Look out for the biggest sign there is. If its been months or years of you being everything they want but not getting the true commitment that you deserve then GET OUT. Don’t let their words fuel your self worth. Actions speak loud and clear, if they want to be with you then they will be with you. Don’t let them suck you into thinking that you deserve to be one of many because you won’t find someone else. Truth is there are millions of people out there ready and willing to give you everything you deserve don’t settle for the one who isn’t. The strongest bonds often come with a title. 

The best friend/friends with benefits sucker

Best friend I never want to lose you, but I do wanna use you…. to get relationship benefits. These situationship suckers play the I don’t want to ruin our friendship by getting together card to get what they want out of you without having to truly be with you. They avoid the commitment by making you feel like its completely reasonable to not be together because it will ruin your friendship. Well let me tell you that their excuse is null and void. If they truly love and care about you, and the friendship is truly genuine then it will carry over and become even better overtime with or without the relationship. If they are getting relationship benefits, i.e sex, kissing, and commitment out of you but not giving you the same in return then they are just using you. They aren’t truly your friend either because no true friend would play with their friends heart/feelings for their own personal gain. Thats just plain evil. Don’t let these situationship suckers trick you in to feeling as if you can’t find a lover and best friend all in one who will be wiling to commit to you and give you everything you deserve. It is more than possible to be in love with your best friend. If they are truly your best friend they wouldn’t want to ever do anything to break your heart. Therefore, they would not string you along making you feel like you both share something special just to get a nice fuck out of you. Love is best when you share it with your best friend.  

The when it’s convenient sucker

These suckers make it seem like it all peaches at first. They come around often, they go out with you, they text you often, and may even confess feelings for you. They will kiss you, hold your hand, sleep over and make you feel as if you two are an item, but they will never directly say it. Then one day, they will just disappear for a while. During this time they will suck you into thinking that something is wrong with you. Make you feel as if you did something wrong to steer them away. Truth is during this time they have either been saving face with their next victim or are back to playing house at home with their family. Though they will never say what was truly up, they will come back around, and this time with an apology and/or an excuse as to why they had disappeared. Maybe they’ve been busy with work, or they had family problems, blah blah blah. Truth of the matter is they were available for you in the beginning work and all. When they say these things they will tell some elaborate story as to why this situation was so different. Just know, that you aren’t a toy and they aren’t allowed to play you like a flute. Their blah blah bullshit cannot be tolerated. These situationship suckers will drag you on a rollercoaster ride of hurt if you let them. You deserve someone who wants you at all times. Not when its most convenient for them, and damn sure not when they are tired of the first and/or next person. No matter the circumstances you deserve a love that will be around through the highs and lows. 

The side piece sucker

You give me a feeling I’ve never had before, not even my person can make me feel the way you do. Thats why I am going to leave them for you. These suckers sell dreams to you making you feel as if you will become their main, but as time goes on you are still believing those dreams will become your reality. They treat you good, take you on dates, stay the night with you, but once they get that call or text they are gone. They still jump when their main says jump, reminding you every time how unimportant you are. These situationship suckers draw you in by selling you lies. They may even go to the extent of going long periods of time of making it seem as if their main is out the picture by spending all their time with you and giving you all their attention. Then comes the excuses as to why they went back to them, or cant shake them. Don’t let these kind of suckers trick you into thinking you deserve to be second to anyone. You are worth more than coming second time and time again. There are millions of people out there willing to put you first, always. These situationship suckers can drag down to your lowest point making you feel as if you can’t do better than them, but believe me when I say if they cant give you what you need/deserve there are plenty of somebodies who can. Everyone deserves to be someones main and only love. 

Conclusion

Adolescence is when all kinds of crazy shit happens. You first experience love, sex, heartbreak, all kinds of drama. You hear a lot, do a lot, and see a lot all in a short period of time. I have experienced and watched others experience all kinds of situationships, and the 4 listed above seem to be the most common that I have witnessed and/or experienced. Although I have only experienced one of the four personally. Watching others undergo the other 3 more often than not has inspired me to write this post. 

Lets talk about it!

 

  1. What kind of situationship suckers have you run into?
  2. Are their any other kinds of situationship suckers that weren’t listed above that others should be warned about? Please share their traits.
  3. Do you think men or women are more prone to being the situationship suckers?Why?

 

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  1. I saw your blog on the community pool and I have to say, this is an awesome post! I have seen numerous friends go through these scenarios and this hits it right at the core. So much detail and so inspiring to those who are hurting. Great job!

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